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Don’t let election arguments divide relationship

Q: My political views are quite liberal and I am endorsing

Joe Biden as my presidential candidate. My cousin is an ultra conservative, and she is endorsing Donald Trump.

 Every time we get together we end up in a heated argument. It’s harming our relationship. How should we behave when we disagree so adamantly?

 A: Most issues in an election year fall into “gray areas” where there is a lot of give and take. You need to openly listen to your cousin’s views and to be respectful of her positions.

 It’s alright to stand for what you see as right, but you should do it in a loving way. Be careful how you state your political positions and the tone of your voice in stating things. Sometimes, the healthiest way to deal with some differences is to agree to disagree.

 In times of contrasting opinions, we all should follow this Scriptural admonition: “Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace” (Eph. 4:2, 3).

 Granted, you and your cousin are at opposite poles politically. That being said, you should make a concerted effort to stay close to her. When someone disagrees with us, our natural tendency is to run away and distance from them. Remember after the election you are still relatives and your relationship is more important than winning a debate.

By Bob Hardison, of Sebree, Columnist